Let me start this off by saying that my relationship isn't perfect. We have our many flaws and we may not fight, but we do bicker at times. I am no relationship expert and I don't want to brag about my relationship. But I am happier with Jake than I have ever been with anyone else.
On my Facebook news feed, I see many blog posts and articles about how a marriage or relationship isn't successful because two people fall in love, but how they choose to love each other. Let me explain what I believe the difference between falling in love and choosing to love to be.
Falling in love is the feeling in your heart that tells you that you deeply care about your significant other. It's the feeling of attraction towards that person.
Choosing to love someone is understand that that person has imperfection. It is not looking past them. It is not staying in a relationship that doesn't benefit you because you love that person despite their huge flaws. Choosing to love someone has to be a two-way street. Your significant other must choose to love you too. It's not a difficult task either, it should not make you cry or hurt you.
It's not always an easy road to be with Jake. But our problems are simply circumstantial. They come from outside issues that we can't control and not from personality issues. Yes, he has flaws. But in my eyes, he's as close to perfect as it gets. He tries very hard to be a good person and because of this, I can choose to love him. It's a choice I make every day, but it's a choice I am happy to make.
On my Facebook news feed, I see many blog posts and articles about how a marriage or relationship isn't successful because two people fall in love, but how they choose to love each other. Let me explain what I believe the difference between falling in love and choosing to love to be.
Falling in love is the feeling in your heart that tells you that you deeply care about your significant other. It's the feeling of attraction towards that person.
Choosing to love someone is understand that that person has imperfection. It is not looking past them. It is not staying in a relationship that doesn't benefit you because you love that person despite their huge flaws. Choosing to love someone has to be a two-way street. Your significant other must choose to love you too. It's not a difficult task either, it should not make you cry or hurt you.
It's not always an easy road to be with Jake. But our problems are simply circumstantial. They come from outside issues that we can't control and not from personality issues. Yes, he has flaws. But in my eyes, he's as close to perfect as it gets. He tries very hard to be a good person and because of this, I can choose to love him. It's a choice I make every day, but it's a choice I am happy to make.
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