Your Boyfriend's Exgirlfriend

Have you ever used Facebook to creep on your ex's new girlfriend or even your boyfriend's exes? I'm guilty of it and I'm sure a lot of you are too. Jake was with his ex for a long time before he met me. She goes to the same school as us and we have some mutual friends. Whenever I see her or a picture of her, I immediately am filled with disgust and anger.

But why?

Is there some unwritten rule that we have to hate each other?

I don't fully understand it. Why do we automatically hate that girl, even if we've never met her? Obviously we have something in common, because at one point, we had similar taste in men. We probably have some other things in common as well. Maybe if we didn't have that one thing in common, we might have even been friends. In fact, we probably would be friends. I'm sure we'd get along great, actually.

I don't know anything about her besides the negative things that Jake has told me and that our mutual friends have told me. I've never heard a positive thing about her. But no girl in her right mind would tell me all these wonderful things about her; it's just not something we do. Girls love drama and gossip and we love rumors. It's just a fact.

But thinking about all of this makes me wonder what would happen if we actually did have a conversation. Would it be filled with rage? Would we act like typical girls and be at each other's throats? That's the first thing that comes to mind. Most girls' first reactions would be ones of anger. But clearly we have things in common. So why can't we be friends, or even just be civil to each other?

I guess the short story is that we don't have to be filled with anger when thinking about awkward situations such as these. Kill 'em with kindness. Be the bigger person and be friendly. Maybe we could start a revolution in girl world.

Why I'm Disappointed in This Month's Cosmo

I am a strong supporter of Cosmopolitan Magazine. I read it secretly when my parents banned it from our house and I subscribed once I moved out on my own. I love the make-up tips, the hair styles, and the woman-power articles.

However, I was extremely disappointed in this month's issue.

It featured an entire section on plastic surgery, and how this is the solution for being self-conscious.

Plastic surgery, unless for a life-saving or non-cosmetic reason, is never the solution for being self-conscious.

If you are unhappy with your body, the first step is to realize that nobody else sees what you see. They don't see just your "large" nose or your flat hair. They notice all of your features combined. You are beautiful in your way and you don't need to change your features in order to fit into your standard of beauty.

Try enhancing the features you are comfortable with. Wear an eyeshadow that accentuates and makes your eye color pop. Or try a different shade of lipstick. Buy yourself a dress that shows off your waist or your long legs. You don't need to resort to plastic surgery.

At my most self-loathing points, I've played with the idea of plastic surgery. But it's not for me. My main reason is that I am so excited to be a mother. I can't wait for the day I get to hold something that I created and see the beauty of my own newborn. That child will also have half of my genes. I want to be able to look in the mirror and see the features my child was handed down, not something a surgeon created.